Proposals are nerve-wracking yet exciting, as they’re the gateway to a new chapter in your lives. However, you want to make sure that when the time comes to propose, you do everything right. We don’t want you struggling to come up with the perfect plan, so we’ve got a guide to help you nail the marriage proposal.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Marriage Proposals

Don’t Plan a Last-Minute Proposal:

A marriage proposal shouldn’t be a “spur of the moment” deal. It needs to be planned out, at least to an extent. A last-minute marriage proposal idea isn’t romantic and seems like you didn’t make an effort to win over your potential fiancé.

Do Something Sentimental for the Both of You:

You know your significant other better than anyone else does, which means you know exactly what will make this surprise proposal monumental and memorable. Think of the little details that mean the most to the both of you- your first date spot, your song, anything that indicates a moment you spent together can help elaborate the proposal.

Don’t Propose Without a Ring:

Your soon-to-be fiancé is going to remember the exact moment they saw the ring, because that’s the moment you committed the rest of your life to them. Proposing without a ring isn’t the end of the world, but we have a hunch your significant other will want to be rocking that jewelry on their finger.

Do Get Down on One Knee:

This classic and traditional move is a clear indication that you are going to propose. To make it even classier, it is said that knights would get down on one knee in front of their lord as a display of respect and loyalty. Therefore a courteous gentleman pledges his allegiance to his significant other and declares his undying love by getting down on one knee.

Don’t Share Your Plan with Everyone:

If you talk too much about the proposal, your significant other has a better chance of finding out. It will ruin the surprise proposal and make it less special and exciting. That being said, only tell the people who can either help you plan the proposal, help on a special day, or know how to keep a secret!

Do Practice:

We know a marriage proposal will never run as smoothly as you’d like it to, but practicing makes it near-perfect. If you practice what you want to say, you won’t jumble your words as much. If you rehearse the scene, then those who are helping you (including the photographer) will know their place.

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Make Sure You and Your Partner are on the Same Page

You want to make sure your partner is going to say “yes,” when you have your surprise proposal. Because if you get down on one knee and they say no…that’s awkward for the both of you.

It’s important to have a talk just to ensure you both know where your relationship is going. You don’t have to propose directly after, because that may ruin the surprise, but at least this will give you the green light to plan.


Find the Perfect Timing

You want the date of the proposal to be a special time for both of you. With that being said, think of some significant dates for you and your significant other.

For example, the day you met, or the day of your first date. Also make sure your significant other doesn’t mind sharing your proposal date with another holiday, like Valentine’s Day, Christmas, etc. If they mind, then maybe plan for a random date to make it your own holiday.


Consider Asking the Parents

If your partner is a family-oriented person, odds are they’re going to want to make sure you get their blessing. Asking the parents is a sign of maturity and respect, indicating that you are the right person they’re going to want to send their child off with. Parents want to make sure their “baby” will be taken care of for the rest of their lives.


Make a Proposal Budget

Depending on what it is you’d want to do, proposals can get expensive. This is why planning out your surprise proposal is good for the event, and for the wallet. After deciding on the timing, find a location, props, anything you want to use to make the moment extra special between the both of you. In the budget, including the ring as well.


Buy THE ring

Speaking of the ring, after you and your significant other talked about getting engaged, they might have dropped some hints on what kind of ring they’re looking for. You want to purchase a ring that they will be proud to wear. Something they will show off. Plus, an engagement ring is something that stays on their finger for pretty much ever, and you want to make sure that it looks beautiful on their hand. It always helps to ask your partner’s friends and family for advice, as they have an idea of what preferences your partner has.


Have a Plan, and then a Backup

As life goes, nothing ever goes as planned, even if you practice. Something always turns up unexpectedly, and that’s when you have to roll with it.

For example, you can’t control the weather. If you’re planning an outside proposal and it rains, think of a backup plan on what you can do or where you can go. Being one step ahead will always help ease your mind, especially when you’re nervous about proposing!


Book a Proposal Photographer or Videographer

Having a professional photographer or videographer at the scene of your proposal is perfect for capturing every single moment of the big event. This is also going to be something you’ll never want to forget. You can have the photographer or videographer hanging around your proposal spot nonchalantly and then the moment it begins to happen they can sneakily start snapping away.

Our proposal photographers know exactly what angles and lighting to get for the perfect look.  Plus, once you’re done, your private photographer can turn it into an engagement photo shoot and take some extra shots of the both of you post-proposal, including smiling into the camera, posing, and shots of the wedding ring.

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